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Encarta defines wealth as “an abundance or great quantity of something”.

Many of us automatically jump to the thought of money when we hear the word wealth.  I know I do. Or at least I did.  When my friend, Cathy, and I decided to co-facilitate a Commanding Wealth Circle I struggled with the name because I didn’t want people to think it was all about money.  Yes, money is a part of it.  We need it to live and enjoy some of life’s pleasures (although many pleasures are free).  I actually pulled out the dictionary as I was creating flyers for the group.  That’s when I saw how expansive the word “wealth” can be.  It’s just how we choose to define it for ourselves.

I am reminded of a story I heard once about a “wealthy” man and his son.  The man wanted to teach his son how lucky he was and thought he could do this by showing the son how poor people live.  They went to the country and spent some time on a farm with a family that would be considered quite poor.

At the end of the trip, the father asked his son what he thought.  The son had a great time and told his father that what he learned was this:

• They have one dog and the family had four.
• They have a pool and the family has a creek that goes on forever.
• They have lanterns in their garden and the family has stars in the sky.
• They have a piece of land and the family has fields that go farther than the eye can see.
• They buy their food and the family grows their own.
• They have walls to protect them and the family has friends.

The son then said to his father, “Thank you for showing me how poor we are.”

It’s all perspective.  Everything in life is that way.  We get to choose how we want to define everything in our world.  It’s both a blessing and curse – depending on your perspective.  Which will you choose?

For more information on the Commanding Wealth Circles, visit our website.

Sounds kind of strange doesn’t it?  Could it really be that simple?  I think so.  The four C’s are :  Consistently delivering Compassion to Collaborately bring about Change. 

For someone to truly heal, they need to feel safe with you.  One way to accomplish this is to provide a consistent experience each time they come in.  This allows them to move right into healing mode rather than having to get familiar with their surroundings all over again.

Compassion.  It is about having compassion for ourselves as healers.  It’s about having compassion for those we work with.  I mention ourselves first because we cannot give something we don’t have and it begins here.  You must have compassion for yourself.  Know that you are doing the best you can and coming from the right place.  Know that you are not the one providing the healing and can only facilitate what someone else is ready to receive.   And then begin…

Once you have compassion for yourself, you can begin to have it for others.  Look at everything you do from their perspective.  What is their experience like?  What would make it better?  What are all the ways you can show them how much you care?

Collaboration means to work with another to achieve something.  This relates to what I mentioned above.  We cannot heal someone.  Each individual is responsible for their own healing.  We, as healers, are just the conduit for it to occur.  It is important that someone be invested in their own healing to truly heal.  You need to work as a team. 

And finally, Change.  I think this one goes without saying.  People see a healer because something isn’t right in their life.  They want something to be different.  By consistently delivering compassion and by collaborating with your client, you can support them in bringing about the change they desire.

If you are a practitioner, I invite you today to take a look at your experience from your client’s perspective and see what they see.  Find something simple to change that will make a big difference.

If you are someone in need of healing (as most of us are), I invite you to decide what you are willing to invest (emotionally, physically, mentally, financially) in your own healing.  Being an responsible participant in your own care will speed the rate of your healing and save you in the long run.

It’s time to live the life you desire – each and everyone one of you!  Let’s all work together to create a world full of healing, full of joy, full of laughter.  Go out today and make a difference.

I had the pleasure of speaking to the store managers last Wednesday at the Preferred Outlets in Medford.  What a great group of people.  I thought the information I shared is always a great reminder for all of us so I decided to post it here so you could benefit as well.  My top 5 tips for managing stress are:

1. Live your life from a state of gratitude.
2. Find at least three proactive behaviors you can do any where, any time and in front of anyone such as taking nice deep breaths, asking questions if you’re in a heated conversation, or think of something that brings you joy.
3. Look at how balanced your life is.  What areas are suffering?  What can you do to bring more balance in today?
4. Focus on what’s really important.  If something is causing you stress but doesn’t really matter in the big picture – let it go.
5. Finally, ask yourself what YOU can bring to the table to make things better.  Don’t blame others!

Have a peaceful day full of joy!

The Butterfly

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly.

One day a small opening appeared and he sat and watched the butterfly as it struggled for several hours to force its body through the little hole. Then, it seemed to stop making progress. It appeared that it had gotten as far as it could.

The man decided to help the butterfly, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily but it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would expand and be able to support the body which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent its whole life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It was never able to fly.

What the man, in kindness, and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required to get through the tiny opening were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved freedom.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If God allowed us to go through life without obstacles, it would cripple us.

We would not be as strong as we would have been. And…We would never fly!