Magnetic Design for Passionate People

There comes a point in your life when you realize:   

Who matters, Who never did, Who won’t anymore… And who always will. So, don’t worry about people from your past, There’s a reason why they didn’t make it to your future.

(Thank you, Joan, for sending this to me at a time I really needed it.) 

This past year has brought many new people into my life and a few have left as well.  I find myself contemplating all the relationship, old and new, and what they mean to me.  Friends are important to me.  Long term relationships are important.  People who want to the best for me are important.  People who know all my little quirks and triggers and like me anyway are important.   I am grateful for all the wonderful people I have in my life – thank you all for being there…for supporting me…for seeing me for who I really am, all of who I am, and still sticking around:).

People do leave for a reason and whatever that reason is doesn’t really matter.  They just aren’t supposed to be there anymore.  We don’t have to take it personally.

I just shared in my newsletter how inspired I am by Ellen and her philosophy of “have a little fun today…give a little love away”.  Who inspires you and why?

How do you show up every day – as the real you or someone else?  Take the quiz below and see how happy you are with your “real self”.   Just check the statements that apply to you and then total them up  when you’re done!

_____  I am happy with who I am, I don’t concern myself with what others think. _____  I accept my flaws, with gratitude. _____  I use my strengths and surround myself with others who are great at things I’m not. _____  I feel like my life is easy, fun, and a genuine expression of who I really am. _____  I don’t have to impress anyone but me. _____  I take care of my body, and I’m generally happy with the way I look. _____  I am able to see the greatness that I already have, but I’m not trying to impress everyone with it. _____  I use simple English instead of trying to impress people with my vocabulary. _____  I see things as they are, not through someone else’s opinion. _____  I have let go of wanting myself to be a certain way. I like who I am. _____  I am beautiful/handsome. _____  I always tell the truth. _____  I have let go of wanting other people to be or act a certain way. _____  I am living my life, not the life that someone else designed for me or expected of me. _____  I don’t have any habits that I try to hide from other people. _____  I am not perfect, and that’s ok. _____  I don’t pretend to be someone I’m not, just to suit other people. _____  There is nothing about my life that I am ashamed of. _____  I respect other’s rules and beliefs, even if they seem unusual or confusing to me. _____  My actions match my words, For example, I don’t condemn a musician for his lyrics, then go buy his  CDs. _____  I am my own best friend. _____  I am able to laugh at life. _____  I cooperate with life; I don’t fight what’s been given to me. _____  I am fully responsible for how my weaknesses may affect me, my life, and those around me. _____  I have fully accepted both my talents and my faults.

Results  0-5: You only get one chance at life.  Make the most of it.  How can you be more true to yourself? 

5-10: What if “being authentic” was more a part of your life?  How would your life be different? 

11-15: Not too shabby!  This is a great start and what you can you shift in your life to be more accepting of who you really are? 

16-20: Great!  You’re doing a wonderful job of being yourself.  Sometimes this may be less comfortable for you.  Overall, though, you’re doing well.

21-25: Fabulous!  You are definitely comfortable with yourself and you know how important this is for others around you.  Congratulations!

Are you ready to be your authentic self?  Are you ready to show the world who you really are?  Life will be so much easier, more fun because it becomes an expression of who you are.  So what’s holding you back?  If you are ready, try setting goals for yourself to allow your real feelings and desires to emerge.  You can do it!

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In April, Maya Angelou was interviewed by Oprah and Oprah asked her what she thought of growing older.  And, there on television, she said it was ‘exciting…’  Regarding body changes, she said there were many, occurring every day….like her breasts. They seem to be in a race to see which will reach her waist, first.  The audience laughed so hard they cried. She is such a simple and honest woman, with so much wisdom in her words!

Maya Angelou said this:

‘I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.’

‘I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.’

‘I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life.’

‘I’ve learned that making a ‘living’ is not the same thing as ‘making a life.’

‘I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.’

‘I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back….’

‘I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.’

‘I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one..’

‘I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone.. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.’

‘I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn..”I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel..’

Enough said

A few days ago my daughter was watching something on TV.  When it was over, she left the room but didn’t turn off the TV.  I wasn’t really paying attention as I was deep into whatever I was working on at the time.  After a while I happened to notice that Spongebob was on.  Years ago I used to occasionally watch this with my daughter but hadn’t seen it in years so forgive me if I get my characters wrong.

In this episode, Plankton was trying to get Spongebob to make Crabby Patties for him.  Where I took notice was when Spongebob was explaining that the environment didn’t feel right for him to cook.  He told Plankton that he was used to cooking on a certain kind of stove so Plankton got him the stove.  Spongebob was so excited but found that he still couldn’t cook the Crabby Patties.  He told Plankton that he was used to cooking in a certain area of the room so Plankton offered to move the stove for him.  This little guy began to push the big stove around the room, following Spongebob’s lead and direction.  He ended up right back where he started, but much more sweaty and out of breath.

I went back to what I was working on but a little while later, I looked up at the TV and saw that Plankton had re-created the exact kitchen that Spongebob was used to cooking in and yet, still Spongebob couldn’t seem to cook the Crabby Patties.

How often in life do you find yourself looking outside for the answers?  How often do you find yourself saying “if only….”?  How many times do you feel like the conditions are not quite right – that something is off?

I don’t know what happened in the rest of the episode of Spongebob but what I do know is he really didn’t want to cook those Crabby Patties and he was looking for reasons outside of himself as to why – things for Plankton to “fix”.  The beauty is, he had the answers inside all along.

Much like Spongebob, you have all the answers you need inside.  If you spend all your time searching outside for them, you will NEVER find them.  Spend some time today going within.  Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and ask what is it you need to know today.  Then take action.

Let me know what comes up for you…

Make it a wonderful day!

Asara shared this in her latest newsletter and I though you might enjoy it.  For more information, visit asara.com and commandingwealth.com.

Have you ever considered the notion that you are a probability waiting to happen? “This just in,” is one of my favorite sayings to explain new thoughts and ideas as they arrive in my consciousness and, “this just in” on the notion that you are more fluid and open to being more “probable” moments of yourself – than you realize.

The One Command keeps taking me out of myself from my small sphere of influence and small thinking, into greater and greater, increasing realms of possibilities, including the notion that in reality all we are is a probability of what is.

When I had this notion that we are a probability of self, expressed in any infinite possibilities, in any direction, moment by moment, I literally saw the universe shift and the people I was looking at, at that moment become fluid light. This was a little disconcerting to say the least, because at that moment I was sitting in a restaurant in Billings Montana. I stayed with the new thought that turned into a brilliant experience right there in the restaurant because it truly was a powerful idea that we are a probability expressed in any direction at any moment.

During The One Command Practitioner Level II Certification we really went for it with this idea of being a probability, and invited the notion that every thought you think – you think – everywhere – including within every other person in existence all at the same moment simultaneously. Now that is an awesome and maybe frightening thought – every thought you think – you think everywhere simultaneously – including within everything – including everyone.

Embracing this idea makes you conceptualize reality from a completely different positioning in the universe. Let’s see how connected we are, rather than how separate, and let’s see how powerful we are in creating our lives – rather than how limited.

Think on this. The smallest wavelength of space that can be measured with modern science right now is 10 to -33 (negative 33 zeros) centimeters. Pretty small. It is mathematically proven that in the smallest wavelength of measurable space there exists more energy than the entire known physical universe. Just for comparisons sake think about it as a tiny pinhead having more energy than all the entire known physical universe.

A tiny pinhead has more energy than all the entire known universe can mean that at the level of your thoughts you have more energy than all the known universe – and if that is the case then your thoughts would be inherent within everything in the known and unknown universe and you would be connected to everything – a part of everything – you would be everything. Even more dramatically you would be the creator of everything as well as the observer and experiencer.

Now that we have gone super quantum with these notions of reality, would you like to play here? Truly you are anyway so why not do it consciously. Just think on this thought for a while. I am a probability waiting to happen in any direction – a fluidity of potentiality. Stay open and see what arrives!

We have a wonderful full selection of innovative new programs for you to enjoy in this newsletter. May your probable self find something that suites you.

Love, Asara Lovejoy

For more information, join us at our next Commanding Wealth Circle at The Center for Harmonious Living in Minnetonka on Tuesday, November 10th.  To register, visit www.lodestonedynamics.com/eventreg.html.

Where are you living? What are you doing? What are your relationships? Are you in right relation? Where is your water? Know your garden. It is time to speak your truth. Create your community. Be good to each other. And do not look outside yourself for the leader.

This could be a good time!

There is a river flowing now very fast. It is so great and swift that there are those who will be afraid. They will try to hold on to the shore. They will feel they are being torn apart, and they will suffer greatly.

Know the river has its destination. The elders say we must let go of the shore, push off into the middle of the river, keep our eyes open, and our heads above water.

See who is in there with you and celebrate.

At this time in history, we are to take nothing personally. Least of all, ourselves. For the moment that we do, our spiritual growth and journey comes to a halt.

The time of the lone wolf is over. Gather yourselves!

Banish the word “struggle” from your attitude and vocabulary.

All that we do now must be done in a sacred manner and in celebration.

We are the ones we’ve been waiting for.

by Orion Mountain Dreamer

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain!

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, or to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you’re telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself, if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. I want to know if you can be faithful and therefore be trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see beauty even when its not pretty every day, and if you can source your life from God’s presence. I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of a lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes!”

It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done for the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you are, how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the center of the Fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away. I want to know if you can be alone with yourself, and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

Encarta defines wealth as “an abundance or great quantity of something”.

Many of us automatically jump to the thought of money when we hear the word wealth.  I know I do. Or at least I did.  When my friend, Cathy, and I decided to co-facilitate a Commanding Wealth Circle I struggled with the name because I didn’t want people to think it was all about money.  Yes, money is a part of it.  We need it to live and enjoy some of life’s pleasures (although many pleasures are free).  I actually pulled out the dictionary as I was creating flyers for the group.  That’s when I saw how expansive the word “wealth” can be.  It’s just how we choose to define it for ourselves.

I am reminded of a story I heard once about a “wealthy” man and his son.  The man wanted to teach his son how lucky he was and thought he could do this by showing the son how poor people live.  They went to the country and spent some time on a farm with a family that would be considered quite poor.

At the end of the trip, the father asked his son what he thought.  The son had a great time and told his father that what he learned was this:

• They have one dog and the family had four.
• They have a pool and the family has a creek that goes on forever.
• They have lanterns in their garden and the family has stars in the sky.
• They have a piece of land and the family has fields that go farther than the eye can see.
• They buy their food and the family grows their own.
• They have walls to protect them and the family has friends.

The son then said to his father, “Thank you for showing me how poor we are.”

It’s all perspective.  Everything in life is that way.  We get to choose how we want to define everything in our world.  It’s both a blessing and curse – depending on your perspective.  Which will you choose?

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